LIVE CALL-IN WORKSHOP RELAUNCH: Friday, Sept. 5th, 2008
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Marriage - The Financial Scoop by Federal Credit Union of Virginia Beach Schools
No one gets married by their accountant. And when love is in your eyes, opening a joint checking account is the furthest thing from your mind. But consider this - the lack of a financial plan can become a major cause of marital stress. Our advice is to open a dialogue with your partner and settle financial matters before they ever become issues. Consider these questions as a way to start the ball rolling.
… great article, just ignore the part about the VBSFCU Account.
Q&A With Tian Dayton Facilitated by Coaching Circles Comments (0)
Q. I am getting married in a month and am very much in love with my fiancée, but I can't help from feeling empty, even when I am with him. Am I wrong about how I am feeling about him?
We all carry emptiness inside of us. It's part of the human condition. Running from emptiness, trying to fill it with people, places and things, is one of the surest ways to guarantee that we will feel forever empty. Denying the emptiness within us only makes it grow. By acknowledging and confronting this feeling, you're opening the door to filling that empty space with what we might call spiritual energy. In twelve-step rooms we talk about a God-shaped hole, in other words an internal emptiness that only God can fill. This is an inside job. No relationship can fill that God-shaped hole and when we try to make it, we set ourselves up for disappointment and loneliness. Two whole people coming together to share this experience of life have a far better chance at a successful relationship than two half people who are trying to fill the void in themselves with the other.
Q. This is a second marriage for both my partner and me. Our union is so positive but we are both plagued by a negative past. How can we put this behind us and move on in our new lives together?
A. First of all, we don't really put negative history behind us; rather, we work slowly and methodically through how it's affected us. Then, as new insights occur, we integrate a fresh perspective on old events. It is in understanding our past that we can learn and grow. This stance includes a certain flexibility of mind and maturity of emotions that allows for living in the present. "Putting things behind us" all too often includes a willful attempt to lock a part of ourselves in an unresolved period of our personal history. It sounds good but in my experience, it doesn't really work. I'm for integration versus amputation.
“Questions to Ask Before You Get Married” by Dr. Robin Smith on Oprah
Before you walk down the aisle, ask the questions that really matter. Dr. Robin Smith shares 25 questions from her book, Lies at the Altar.
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“The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran
Then Almitra spoke again and said,
And what of Marriage, master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be for ever more.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness.
And let the winds of heaven dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same
music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together.
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.