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Dr. Fernandez assists you in managing conflict and increasing intimacy and connection in your relationship.
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How to Fight Fair By Dr. Phil
How you argue — especially how you end an argument — can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship.
A primary requirement for any fight is to maintain control. You do not have the license to be childish, abusive or immature. If you have legitimate feelings, you are entitled to give a reasonable voice to those feelings in a constructive way. (That includes not being self-righteous or taking yourself too seriously.)
"Disagreements are going to occur," says Dr. Phil. "The question is, do you go into it with a spirit of looking for resolution or do you go into it with a spirit of getting even, vengeance, control? You'll never win if you do that. If you make your relationship a competition that means your spouse has to lose in order for you to win. It's not a competition, it's a partnership."
Here are Dr. Phil's specific rules for fighting fair.
1. Take it private and keep it private.
2. Keep it relevant.
3. Keep it real.
4. Avoid character assassination.
5. Remain task-oriented.
6. Allow for your partner to retreat with dignity.
7. Be proportional in your intensity.
8. There's a time limit.
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How to Fight Fair By Dr. Phil
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